I think one of the more difficult situations to handle (for me, personally) when I come across someone willing to believe that humans come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, INCLUDING Fat, is when the conversation inevitably comes to this phrase, nearly always verbatim: “People DO come in all shapes and sizes. It only gets to be a problem if you’re not healthy.”
No. Here’s how that phrase should go. “People DO come in all shapes and sizes.”
As the post title says: the only person whose health is your business is YOU. NO ONE ELSE’S HEALTH IS YOUR BUSINESS. That includes fatties, thin-nies, tall, short, greasy-forehead, dry-skin, whatever visual cues you use to judge a person; the health of all those people is NOT your responsibility. No. It isn’t. Yes, most of us pay into health care too for EVERYONE’S health. That still doesn’t make the health of any one person (or size/shape of person) your Cause Celeb. Is it a family member? A loved one? Fine. Tell them you CARE about them. Don’t for a minute think you have a right or, worse, a responsibility, to berate them or judge them or proselytize to them about your assumptions about their health.
If I could just find simple ways to move people PAST this point of health being the one caveat to human size diversity acceptance I would be a rather happy April D. So here’s where I ask you all to pipe in:
When someone you actually like and respect (not a stranger who is attacking you verbally but someone you are good friends with) gets HALF on-board the Fat Acceptance train, how do you push past that “as long as you’re healthy” portion of the discussion?